In 10 days at this time, I'll be getting all dolled up; hair and makeup, lingerie, shoes and the dress. Our flowers will be delivered, photographer will arrive, and I'll make my final drive to the church as Lauren Greenslit.
It's crazy to think how fast it came; way back in November when we became engaged, 10 months seemed like forever-away...and now it's in 10 DAYS.
Over the past few weeks, RSVPs arrived daily, and we were disappointed with how many non-responses there were. Especially when we found out those no-shows were because of work, or games. C'man, really? You've known for 10 months and all of a sudden you can't get work off? Or miss a game? It said a lot to us about certain people, and we had our choice words about it and moved on with our love for one another and focused on the importance of our big day.
That's all it should really be about anyway - love. I actually hate the fact that I have some big expensive dress I'll wear once, and that I have to worry about how my hair and make up will come out, or consider other people's feelings when it comes to the music choices made or the food we've prepared. Aren't we missing the big picture here? People go to weddings because they want to be in the presence of true love, and also, to support those who have been lucky enough to find it. Everything else is icing on the cake.
As the next ten days both drag and fly by, I look forward with anticipation of God's greatest gift. And we feel lucky to have those we love and are close to there to celebrate with us.
"Love is patient, love is kind
It is not jealous, is not pompous,
it is not infalted, it is not rude,
it does not seek its own interests,
it is not quick tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrong doing
but rejoices with truth.
It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails."
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Wedding Jitters
Well, the countdown continues: 18 days until Eric and I become husband and wife. RSVP cards are coming in by the day, and I'm sure to be developing a case of arthritis after hand-writing each seating card and thank-you note. Together forever in just over 2 weeks.
...Forever!? This word, along with "life-long" threw me in the cold feet direction the other night as Eric and I read our words of wisdom cards from our wedding shower. My fear didn't come from thinking I couldn't do it, but that our focus is on the near future; the wedding, children, a house, vacations...all the luxuries of marriage and family. Reality check, please?
Eric and I then spent the night discussing our future beyond this dream world. How will we handle the stress of adding to our family? How will we be able to work, be parents, and still find the energy and time to make each other happy? How will we handle 60+ years of ups and downs, arguments, and hard times? Especially when we don't see divorce as an option. There's no way out; the only way to make it work is to do just that - MAKE IT WORK. Forever is a long, long time. Lucky for us, we feel confident that beyond the golden years, we'll still be together, holding hands and looking back on silly things we argued over, and how they made us stronger. That was Eric's advice to me in my worried state of mind the other night - it's not how many arguments we have, it's the fact that we get through them together and come out closer and stronger; another obsticle overcome.
In a very appropriate Lauren-Eric world, allow me to reference Boy Meets World; Topanga was worried to make a life commitment to Corey because her parents were getting a divorce, and she believed all hope for true love was gone. She was worried to ever cause Corey the pain she saw her parents going through - until she talked to her mother. She explained to Topanga that although she was no longer married, and that yes, the divorce was rough, she would have rather been married and divorced, than to never had experienced the love she shared with Topanga's father; that if she knew they would end up divorced, the years they spent together, happy, were well worth it. As the old saying goes: it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all. So, Topanga agreed to marry Corey, by saying: "here's to the rest of our lives, or until tomorrow".
Eric and I are not enterting this marriage thinking "Hey! Let's give this a shot and if it doesn't work out, there's always divorce"; we are getting married to make a life long commitment to each other, however, neither of us can predict the future. We can only hope for the best, try our hardest, and know that every moment spent together is worth it. I love him with all my heart, trust him unconditionally, and know he feels the same in return. I can't wait to see what the future has in store for us, and to see how we over come each obsticle thrown our way.
So, goodbye wedding jitters; here's to the countdown - to the wedding, to forever.
...Forever!? This word, along with "life-long" threw me in the cold feet direction the other night as Eric and I read our words of wisdom cards from our wedding shower. My fear didn't come from thinking I couldn't do it, but that our focus is on the near future; the wedding, children, a house, vacations...all the luxuries of marriage and family. Reality check, please?
Eric and I then spent the night discussing our future beyond this dream world. How will we handle the stress of adding to our family? How will we be able to work, be parents, and still find the energy and time to make each other happy? How will we handle 60+ years of ups and downs, arguments, and hard times? Especially when we don't see divorce as an option. There's no way out; the only way to make it work is to do just that - MAKE IT WORK. Forever is a long, long time. Lucky for us, we feel confident that beyond the golden years, we'll still be together, holding hands and looking back on silly things we argued over, and how they made us stronger. That was Eric's advice to me in my worried state of mind the other night - it's not how many arguments we have, it's the fact that we get through them together and come out closer and stronger; another obsticle overcome.
In a very appropriate Lauren-Eric world, allow me to reference Boy Meets World; Topanga was worried to make a life commitment to Corey because her parents were getting a divorce, and she believed all hope for true love was gone. She was worried to ever cause Corey the pain she saw her parents going through - until she talked to her mother. She explained to Topanga that although she was no longer married, and that yes, the divorce was rough, she would have rather been married and divorced, than to never had experienced the love she shared with Topanga's father; that if she knew they would end up divorced, the years they spent together, happy, were well worth it. As the old saying goes: it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all. So, Topanga agreed to marry Corey, by saying: "here's to the rest of our lives, or until tomorrow".
Eric and I are not enterting this marriage thinking "Hey! Let's give this a shot and if it doesn't work out, there's always divorce"; we are getting married to make a life long commitment to each other, however, neither of us can predict the future. We can only hope for the best, try our hardest, and know that every moment spent together is worth it. I love him with all my heart, trust him unconditionally, and know he feels the same in return. I can't wait to see what the future has in store for us, and to see how we over come each obsticle thrown our way.
So, goodbye wedding jitters; here's to the countdown - to the wedding, to forever.
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